The "Balance" Of Life??!!????!!

Tonight, we went to IHOP for a get together with our friends, Lisa and David Gordon.

It may be the last time that we'll see David...

Both he and Lisa were co-workers with da wife and they came to our weeding (wedding) three years ago. (Our third year anniversary will be October 21, which is aka "sweetest day")

I didn't know Lisa and David well. But da wife has always spoke very highly of them and I got to know them better after our wedding and they came to dinner and we got to know and love them dearly.

Unfortunately for David, he has been battling a "benign" brain tumor the past 10 years with numerous operations and chemo/radiations that had him traveled all around the country.

Two years ago, they moved to Charlotte, NC because of job situations and David's situation and we haven't seen much of them since...

He has battled this tumor hard...as well as Lisa...

And even though it is benign, it won't stop growing and finally, David said, "he's tired" and has refused to go through another operation or chemo. He'll be starting hospice on Monday...

HOSPICE....

When we saw him tonight, we could barely recognize him. His face has swollen to twice his old thin-self...he had an eye patch over his right eye and his left eye couldn't look straight.

But he had such a peace look to him...I burst into tears as well as da wife and I was so emotional I didn't know what to say at first.

They are such a strong couple...and they truly love one another...

we know that Lisa has done all she could and more for him. She also works hard and is providing for the family...

They both are exceptional people as well as having exceptional work ethics. But it is the love that they share for each other that truly touches us....

A lot of their friends showed up tonight....to celebrate our love for David and Lisa...perhaps, one last time....

As I got my chance to have sat with Lisa and David....

I told them that I have such admiration for them, and for him, and for her...

He really is a good man...a man of honor, dignity, and paragon and representation of hardworker.

I told him all that...I wanted him to know that it is such an honor to know him and that I hope that some miracle WILL happen for him/them....

I am not the type to sugar coat things for I am practical and pragmatic. But I also believe in the power of positive thinking and positive thoughts (That include prayers)...

As others visited him and Lisa, I sat with the kids that were there....including ours...they were at another section...

there they were, laughing, playing, joking, having fun while the adults were on the other side, while the adults were not in tears or had faces of "sadness". There was on that end, a solemn and the last supper sense about it for David...

I couldn't help but look at the both sides and my heart tug-of-warred...

I wish I could take some of those energy of youth, of life...and give some of that to David and extend his for much longer...

they were having such fun, being innocent, carefree, and enjoying themselves...

I wonder if they'll sit on the "otherside" one day, in the same situation as the adults....

I pray and hope that doesn't happen....but I also know that the cycle of life is of such....

I still find myself struggling to get up each day....but David is one of those people that I think about...and it gets me off of my lazy butt and try to take on the day....and I am glad, that I got the chance to tell him so....

Da wife and I are also feeling anger....while we understand it, we still don't want to understand it, why that a lot of the good folks cannot get a good break....

but there was something about David tonight...he looked peaceful....

Da wife said that she remembered him being scared, and struggled with the tumor, as well as his ability to provide, as well as his fear of life itself...

but something about the way he looked tonight strengthen the part of me that is fearless of death...for I, in a way, understand that in accepting death....we actually feel more alive....

I wonder if he felt more alive tonight...by the folks that showed up, to show their love for him and Lisa...

and I wonder...if he heard the innocent lively laughter on the other end of the restaurant...and wondered to himself that it's all a cycle...and that he and Lisa have something that many others can't claim in their lives....

TRUE LOVE....